Dating Perspective

If you dare to message me on the same dating website that I am a current member, you will learn the “Backstage” me, NOT “Front stage”.

I HATE dating!! Seriously, why would anyone be fond of the dating world when it mainly consists of acting in a one man show? What’s exciting about meeting fake people, interviewing and answering the same questions over and over as did the last candidate, and of course manipulating and molding ourselves to match the character and quality traits of what the other person is actively seeking. Some men and women deserve a standing ovation and academy award for their acting performance during their dating adventure. Perhaps dating would be a good avenue for acting scouts to recruit new clients.

I have been referred to as the female Howard Stern with the “I don’t FUCKING CARE” attitude and will do what most people expect and claim they do but don’t, aka cowards, which is to TELL THE FUCKING TRUTH!!!! According to society, I should cross my “t’s”, dot my “I’s”, be and act like a lady and reframe from using profane and vulgar language at all times in the presence of a public audience. Once upon a time I did act like a lady should. Sorry but “society’s” outdated rules and standards can kiss my ass, similar to the games, manipulation and bullshit that comes along with the “Dating Scene”.

Is it possible to act and behave like adults on a date, or has society brainwashed us with the traditional “do” and “don’ts such as, “Don’t call or answer phone too soon, it could be viewed as desperate” or my favorite, “Don’t have sex on the first date”. It’s sad that a lot of people still follow the golden dating rules that were implemented before most of us were born. I laugh when I see in almost every profile the words “NO DRAMA”,” NO GAMES”.  Are people that ignorant to realize the games we play and drama we enable has unconsciously become our second nature? I am done venting and rest my case.

I now begin my journey through the BULLSHIT dating scene yet again, only this time I added the paragraph below to my dating profile

BEWARE: Due to the BS on this site, I am now beyond jaded in the dating scene. I have succeeded in pushing away every guy I have met, for no reason, making sure a second meeting is not an option, despite how much I liked them. So I dare you to message me at your own risk!!

They were warned!

57 Responses to “Dating Perspective”

  1. Paula April 27, 2012 at 8:13 AM #

    Oh, I love this! I’m going to be alone forever, I realize, due to my age (51 next week) and my attitude (same as yours), but … I DGAF!! High-five 🙂

  2. bossymoksie April 30, 2012 at 6:07 PM #

    Dating is FUN when you do you. If they don’t like it, they can kiss it. If they do, then they can kiss sumthin else! 😉 I always dare a dude to pull out some BS, cuz I will put them in their place, and have fun with it too! Keepin it real is the best way to stay sane with these dudes.

  3. alltheavenueslookugly April 30, 2012 at 8:38 PM #

    my only complaint is that i haven’t found this blog already. brilliant. i can already tell this is going to be wonderful.

    p.s. thanks for the follow!

  4. Thomas Kelleher May 1, 2012 at 11:42 AM #

    I love your honesty and no bullshit attitude and look forward to reading more of your blog. Thanks for following mine!

  5. Seth Winternight May 2, 2012 at 6:26 PM #

    This blog is quite controversial for how it makes me feel. I support and don’t support you in some aspects. What I dislike is that everything is a game, which includes this blog as well and no offence to that I don’t mean to come off as pompous. What I do admire is that the game you play is “blunt honesty” and many people can take inspiration from your blog and you can influence others to think differently and ultimately for themselves. I do like this blog indeed.

  6. renaissan May 3, 2012 at 7:03 PM #

    Amen sista!

    It IS sad a lot of us still follow the “golden” rules that were implemented a thousand years ago. Those rules are meant to be broken… Including calling the stupid thing a DATE! God! Just the word REEKS of stiffness (not in the good way) and awkwardness.

    But from your little cautionary warning I can tell you’d be a shit load of fun to meet. Haha

  7. ljmaggie May 4, 2012 at 12:58 PM #

    Love this post. It is true, dating is all a game. I find that some guys play it better than others and you find out to late. I am over the game and am amazed at some of the guys I meet. Some have the chessiest lines. Like you I am over all of these rules us as women have to follow when dating. Why can’t everyone just be honest from the start.

  8. justkeepswimming1313 May 8, 2012 at 8:24 PM #

    The games and bullshit are amazing. Amazingly frustrating. I’m just me. Disaster, foul language and all! If they don’t like it, fuck ’em!

  9. pehayes4244 May 8, 2012 at 8:26 PM #

    I feel the same fucking way!!

  10. bfmccurry May 9, 2012 at 12:22 PM #

    Great post! My wife and I don’t fuck around with this–we agreed on “brutal honesty” right up front. It’s worked for us for 22 years. Don’t settle for some asshole who’s not worthy of your honesty.

  11. boobsetal May 9, 2012 at 2:37 PM #

    Hi, this is to onlinedatingjournal not Paula but I couldnt find the comment section. awesome perspectives; thanks for the follow, keep visiting and u may comment, and defos following u.

  12. Brick May 9, 2012 at 2:43 PM #

    I would rather trust than go through life thinking everyone is out to screw me, call me naive. Life is too short to be angry. Life is one big game so maybe it’s more about having realistic expectations and learning the rules of the game…rather then expecting unrealstic behavior.

  13. Michael Cargill May 9, 2012 at 3:18 PM #

    Hello. You sound scary and I am scared.

    I like your blog though so I feel a bit safer now.

  14. datingbitch May 9, 2012 at 3:22 PM #

    I really don’t bite! 🙂
    Or I try not to. LOL

  15. Md. Alsanda May 9, 2012 at 5:35 PM #

    Thanks for the like and the follow, about pushing away guys,
    I am sure you are looking for Mr. perfect, we all do male or
    female reduce your demands and conditions to maybe
    2 or 3 like Honest, Kind and sincere !!!
    Remember that :
    Love Waits for Three Things…!

  16. datingbitch May 9, 2012 at 6:51 PM #

    I’m not angry. Once upon a time I trusted people until they gave me a reason not to. Now I have my guard up and over time you will earn my trust.

  17. Brick May 9, 2012 at 7:08 PM #

    that’s good and that makes sense…i like the sense of humor. keep it up.

  18. judithatwood May 9, 2012 at 7:08 PM #

    Hi! I love your style! My first time here and I know I’ll be back! By the way, welcome to the readers. I’m glad you’ve joined us. If you’d like, please find my Friends Page, and tell me and my readers a little about yourself and your blog, and please be sure to add the URL. I think you are going to be a wonderful addition to our group, and I look forward to reading your comments. Again, welcome!

  19. datingbitch May 9, 2012 at 8:15 PM #


  20. judithatwood May 9, 2012 at 8:31 PM #

    You and I are going to get along just great!

  21. sherrylcook May 9, 2012 at 10:21 PM #

    This is awesome! Thanks for the follow and I’m glad you did because it led me to this!!!! I can’t wait to read more. I dated off and on from online sites for over seven years. Boy, do I have alot of stories to tell……currently, I have a Man ( I refuse to say boyfriend at my age…51) going on 11 months now….don’t hold your breath….lol you go girl!

  22. Strange Trip Studios May 9, 2012 at 11:20 PM #

    I have no idea why you followed my blog but I am glad you have because I was able to read the up front and honest approach you put out there. It took me several crazy relationships (including one pre-menopausal, PMSing, alcoholic that tried to bury scissors in my chest) to learn that I neither write nor read between the lines.

  23. datingbitch May 10, 2012 at 6:57 AM #

    Darlin, I’m a woman and I DON’T understand the things my gender say and do. Men are simple but women over anaylize and make men difficult to understand. Women on the other hand are all around FUCKED UP!!!
    GOD seriously needed to provide a manuel for men about women!

  24. Strange Trip Studios May 10, 2012 at 8:02 AM #


  25. somebrownnerd May 10, 2012 at 3:56 PM #

    I really appreciate the follow, though it seems a bit out of place with your topic. I am absolutely enamored with your blog, and all of your stories though! You have a very interesting perspective on the dating scene. It really is a jungle out there, slashing and burning it with truth seems to make things a little easier. Looking forward to your next post!


  26. renaissan May 11, 2012 at 1:40 AM #

    Yes please

  27. stripestiger May 12, 2012 at 1:22 AM #

    I like this site. I hate dating too. Probably why I;v’e never had a gf outside of online roleplaying. At my age, 45 and still being the v-word as well…I’ll probably die alone. Starting to not really care though:)

  28. datingbitch May 12, 2012 at 2:22 PM #

    Yes pease what?

  29. renaissan May 13, 2012 at 4:19 PM #

    Yes please on providing a manual on women for men. Haha

  30. Primos May 16, 2012 at 7:59 PM #

    Haha, I love your honesty! Thanks for the follow, I’m glad you did!

  31. rosemcom May 17, 2012 at 2:01 PM #

    Just wanted to thank you for liking my post “What of my happiness” and following my Chapter 41 blog…I really like the honesty, no bullshit vibe of your blog ~ Rose

  32. nelle May 18, 2012 at 5:48 PM #

    The truth, what a concept! If only it starts a fad. 🙂

  33. Cry and Howl May 18, 2012 at 6:54 PM #

    Stopping by to thank you for visiting Cry And Howl. You have a very cool blog site here. I’ll add you to my blog roll if it’s okay with you. Have a great weekend!

  34. gingerfightback May 21, 2012 at 8:44 AM #

    Thanks for following – your posts are a blast! We truly do over complicate our lives. Best wishes.

  35. Alissa May 21, 2012 at 11:00 AM #

    Hi! Thanks for following Chaostoclarity!

  36. why am I here in a handbasket? May 21, 2012 at 7:30 PM #

    this is funny shit.

  37. TaraPowers May 22, 2012 at 11:15 PM #

    I wish I could send you a private message (maybe I can, but I don’t own “wordpress for dummies”).

    Part of me loves this blog. I think your fuck-all attitude is refreshing and agree that many people are a bit judgemental without thinking about the “why”. Contrastingly there are a few hypocritical posts. You take offense at other people sayin’ shit about you for your “number” because of health concerns yet you were genuinely concerned about porn-star-dude and his number.

    by now I feel like you are all “tl;dr”, but I will continue.

    I feel like your blog is close to being sex positive, even if that isn’t your goal. The problem is that you may alienate people who don’t want sex every month, let alone every day. Some people just don’t. They aren’t broken. Neither are you. You’re just different. I wish you would be less negative about people who don’t prioritize orgasms. (I do, and totally get the drive for it. Candi doesn’t and I understand her too.)

    If [this comment] wasn’t too long already, here is my final complaint:
    SOME women are bitches. Some men are assholes too! You are so willing to forgive men even though your one of your online dates STALKED you, but you think you don’t have female friends because the women you are *forced* to interact with suck major balls?? I think you may be limiting yourself by not giving ladies more of a chance. Benefit of the doubt goes a long way.

    So now I am following you. And if we are ever in the same city, I am buying you a bottle of wine.

  38. Ray Sharp May 24, 2012 at 12:53 PM #

    I, thanks for visiting my blog. LOve your blogging and the design.

  39. datingbitch May 24, 2012 at 5:16 PM #

    Well thank you darlin for the comment, sorry for the delay. 🙂

  40. Stuff Charles Does June 2, 2012 at 6:44 PM #

    Hi – great blog you have.

    I noticed you liked one of my posts (thanks for that) so I thought I’d notify you that my blog has moved to

  41. stephenedwards425 June 5, 2012 at 6:18 PM #

    Hi Ms. Hayes…absolutely glad that you decided to follow my blog…but I feel compelled to pass along some suggestions to enhance your reading pleasure. I have compiled these helpful hints from other first time readers:

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  42. pissingonmypistols June 8, 2012 at 12:46 PM #

    Thanks for liking my work. You have a wild point of view – I’ll be checking in.

  43. dystopiconvert June 14, 2012 at 6:27 PM #

    hey I nominated you for an award

  44. datingbitch June 14, 2012 at 6:50 PM #

    Awww…thank you, you are a sweetie! 🙂

  45. crazytraintotinkytown June 15, 2012 at 2:13 PM #

    Hola cupcake – as you know I am a big fan of your work & that’s why I’ve tagged you, so pop on over for details

  46. Pavner February 9, 2013 at 5:02 PM #

    I’m not promoting my own blog but what real and honost perspective (including on the two comments) from someone who both has experience in the online dating world and a strait forward mindset.

    The question is, how honest is too honest?

  47. datingbitch February 9, 2013 at 5:13 PM #

    Not everyone will agree or like everything one has to say whether they are honest or not, having said that…..I prefer to be brutally honest (as long as it doesn’t humiliate or hurt another person) because so many people a NOTre honest with themselves and with others. If people don’t like my honesty and others, then they don’t have to listen and can walk away!

  48. behindthemaskofabuse February 10, 2013 at 10:43 PM #

    thank you kindly for dropping by my blog 🙂

  49. keladelaide April 1, 2013 at 6:08 AM #

    Heartfelt thanks for visiting Free Little Words and liking the post you read. I’ve got some spare love over at my blog each day if you need some.

  50. TheGirl September 17, 2013 at 12:18 PM #

    Would you happen to accept submissions for book reviews?

  51. datingbitch September 18, 2013 at 8:16 PM #

    Sure. How do I go about it?

  52. TheGirl September 20, 2013 at 9:41 AM #

    Oh well I’ll take your email address, and when its ready I’ll send you the ebook.

  53. datingbitch September 23, 2013 at 4:43 AM #

    Sounds good!

  54. TheGirl September 23, 2013 at 4:33 PM #

    What’s your email addy? Or you can email me

  55. datingbitch September 23, 2013 at 11:27 PM #

    I sent you an email, if you don’t get it let me know.

  56. TheGirl September 24, 2013 at 2:23 PM #

    I got it!


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